From the moment the woman finds herself pregnant, a series of feelings and emotions takes over her and her thoughts. Joy, satisfaction, fear , insecurity, anxiety , all at the same time and in high dosage.
Becoming a mother does not occur as a natural consequence of pregnancy and childbirth. It is a construction in the woman’s life, full of experiences and adaptations in the face of physical changes, hormonal issues and news that appear in this period.
All expectations and uncertainties about the child, and also the pregnancy, can generate anxiety in the woman in the face of the unknown, be it the first or the fifth pregnancy, since each pregnancy is unique and different from the others.
In addition, the transformation of the daughter into a mother, the bodily changes and the relationship between sexuality and motherhood demand from the woman a new form of emotional reorganization that can often generate anguish and difficulties.
Did you know that a woman’s emotional state changes according to the period of pregnancy she is in?
First trimester: normally, in this phase the conflicts that appear can be associated with ambivalence of feelings and include thoughts about the baby, its conception, changes in roles (wife, woman, mother, professional) and various fears. The woman becomes more regressed or infantilized, full of desires and willing to be cared for.
Second trimester: when the woman begins to feel the baby’s movements, the relationship between mother and child is favored. Generally, most of the physical symptoms disappear, the belly starts to appear and the pregnancy gains a higher status of reality, which can cause happier feelings for the woman. The second trimester is seen by most mothers as the best of the entire pregnancy.
Third trimester: it is the final stretch of pregnancy, and, with the proximity of childbirth, the woman generally becomes more susceptible to emotional changes. States of anxiety and depression , sleep disorders, distance from sexual life, communication problems with the partner, physical tiredness and phobias, among others, may occur . Some women are afraid of childbirth, of pain, of physically separating from their child … some may even begin to have questions about the baby’s health.
All of these feelings are natural and, in a way, the entire pregnancy can be marked by mood swings. Each woman will experience it in a very specific way, but it is important not to forget that all this emotional turmoil is normal and is part of that process.
How can women be helped?
The more the pregnant woman feels supported and safe, the better. In times of doubt it is important that she is welcomed and encouraged in the face of the new role.
It is also valid for women to avoid keeping doubts and fears to themselves. Talking to your partner, friends and other mothers can help.
It is also worth remembering that she can ask for professional help if she feels the need, during this period. A trusted obstetrician and a psychologist can help a woman to experience her pregnancy more smoothly and become more confident.
It exists, but it is not all … Motherhood is a constant learning process and no woman is born knowing all the details. It is on a daily basis that she and the baby will be able to get to know each other, discover themselves and form a bond between them.
Time, patience and love are the things that really count!